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Reality

It took me about 30 mins to come out of anesthesia and another 30 mins to really shake my dopey state. They waited until I was with it before bringing Levi in. Physically I couldn't really sit up very well so Levi was laid beside me. When I saw him my hopes and prayers for a miracle quickly disappeared. I knew he was gone from this world and I'd have to wait for my time to go before I'd even get to look into his eyes.

Despite reality setting in, I couldn't help but smile when I saw him. He looked so perfect- and yet so fragile. He was a healthy 7 lbs 8 oz with fat cheeks and full lips... but his skin had already started to tear. I watched him carefully as he was passed around to all the family members- feeling the need to keep a close eye on him... and yet there was nothing they could have done nor would they have done to harm him in any way. When Tommy held him it was different though. I watched him closely thinking of what could have been. He walked back and forth in the room softly singing to him. It made my heart melt... and ache.

We kept him with us until I felt myself fighting to stay awake. The nurse came and got him and we told her we wanted to see him one last time while we still could. I rested briefly while they reswaddled him in hospital blankets so we could keep the outfit he wore and brought him to us again. I wanted to keep him there forever... but knew it was time to let him go.

The days that followed brought teary nights and funeral plans. Tommy and our parents made most of the arrangements but I gave my input on the things that mattered to me. When deciding on a floral spray it seemed like such a reminder that children aren't meant to die. All the arrangements looked wrong- they were too big for such a small body. I was told I'd have the option of seeing Levi again once before he was buried but he wouldn't look the same. At first I said no- I wanted to remember him as I saw him... but then I felt I had to see him again. It wasn't the same. He was cold and grey, his body stiff. It was hard seeing him like that- but I knew that if I didn't spend every minute I could with him I might end up regretting that too. I don't regret the decision to see him that way, despite how difficult it was.

"...I will go to him, but he will not return to me." 2 Samuel 12:23


With Levi's birth and the days that followed, I knew the miracle I wanted was not to be. I don't know the reasons why but will strive to live my life so that I will go to him one day.

Comments

your words sound like mine. this shouldn't have to be our reality, but since we have faith we know that God has good things in store for us and though we've been in darkness - the morning is coming. i love you and am praying for you today!
Bree said…
I can just picture Tommy with Levi. That image of you watching father and son is heartbreaking. I'm so sorry you had to endure such a long, traumatic labor. Thinking of you!
JD said…
Thinking of you, Tommy and Levi today. Thank you for the honor of sharing with us the memory of Levi's birth. Your words and his life have touched my heart.

My prayers are with you today...
Angela said…
I wish I would have seen Ella one more time even though I knew she would not look the same...they would not let me at the funeral home. I was so upset but had no energy to fight it. I know what you mean when you talk about sprays...I felt the same way about urns. Nothing was right for a baby..and the tiny size of them made my stomach cringe. Actually ended up getting a music box instead....much more fitting for a child.
Alicia said…
I've been lurking for a couple of days (via MckMama's BlogFrog) and I just wanted to comment tonight. I just want to let you know that I am praying you are feeling the everlasting arms of our Mighty God holding you tonight. I know you have Tommy, and the new life growing in your belly but there is nothing like being cradled in the arms of our Heavenly Father.

Blessings to you, Tommy, Levi, and the Little Bean.
Unknown said…
Our prayers are with you all tonight. Thank you for sharing your story of your beautiful Levi. I hope that today of all days God has given you peace in knowing that, although he spent such a short time here with you, he was loved so much by you and your family and is now loved eternally in his arms. Our children are our most precious of his gifts and Levi is one of those who is truly treasured, even by us who never got a chance to meet him. God bless you for your strength.
Dana said…
Praying for you. Thank you for having the courage to post your story here. Levi is so loved!
AnnaBelle said…
This is a heartbreaking story. I'm so sorry it is your reality.

Much love to you as you remember and honor Levi. Thank you for sharing the story of Levi's birth.
Mary said…
I could just see you watching him as he was passed around to the family. This is such a sweet way to remember him. Thank you for sharing Levi with us.
Holly said…
I know those moments spent with Carleigh after her birth were very special to me. ((hug))

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